some are constructive...but some can easily bring you down....
many people nowadays have the tendency to comment on various matter in life..be it a simple daily life routine or something big as politics...but sometimes people forget that too much comment can lead to unexpcted results,even if it happened unintentionally...
however,
i notice that some people comment differently, it varies from reason,situation and intention...examples are;
Motivator- they like to comment on life, religion and self improvement. They know what keeps you going and always want you to have the best. Mind you, sometimes some truth are always hard to digest but these people always have the best intention to others.
Complainer - they like to comment on the things in life that they feel not good enough. These kind of people rarely appreciate, and also suggest things that other people already know but dont bother to think is necessary since their doing fine.
Critics - they like to comment to people they dont like,or they just made a habit on bringing the self esteem of others. Mind you, these people are NOT constructive because they have expectations and expect it to be expected. Get it?
Lagak - this people speak for themselves and they talk about themselves,their achievement. Unintentionally they may give comments that may make Complainers and Critics to make other people suffer. But well, we never know people right?
Notice there are more negative then positive for Commenters? well, it the fact of life and human nature to comment. but we must remember the vital thing about talking too much;
" Terlajak perahu boleh di undur,terlajak kata badan binasa"
" The tougue is sharper than a sword"
"Sesiapa yang banyak bercakap banyaklah kesalahannya, sesiapa yang banyak kesalahannya banyaklah dosanya, api nerakalah yang layak untuk dirinya." (Hadis riwayat Baihaqi). Jika sudah banyak dosa, maka tentulah neraka yang paling layak untuk si mulut murai ini, seperti sabda Rasulullah SAW, "Tidaklah dihumban muka manusia ke dalam neraka itu sebagai hasil tuaian (jelik) lidahnya." (Hadis riwayat At-Tarmizi)
so remember my dears,
i know life is hard,i know you dont like certain things or events that happen in your life...dont talk too much on things that you know does not benefit you or others, especially if your talking about another human being that clearly didnt do anything to harm you or hurt you. If your really have to say something,its best you just meet up or text that person and say the things you want to say. Its better to have closure on something rather than linger on to it..because this can result to make you a bitter and self-centered person.
Rasulullah SAW telah bersabda yang bermaksud: "Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang paling aku kasihi di kalangan kamu dan orang yang paling dekat tempat duduknya denganku dihari kiamat ialah orang yang paling baik akhlaknya. Sesungguhnya orang yang paling aku benci dan paling jauh dariku pada hari kiamat ialah orang yang banyak bercakap perkara sia-sia, dan berlagak angkuh, sombong malah ia merasa bangga dengan kesombongannya." Para sahabat bertanya lagi, "Wahai Rasulullah, sesungguhnya kami telah mengetahui maksud perkataan orang-orang yang suka bercakap banyak yang sia-sia, dan yang berlagak angkuh dan sombong, tetapi apakah maksud orang yang bangga dengan kesombongannya? Jawab Rasulullah, "ialah orang yang takbur." (Hadis Riwayat At-Tarmizi)
but always remember..if your the victim..if you cant be an avid commenter...its okay..people will talk about you,wanting to know why and such..human nature is to be curious....it hurts i know but trust me,in the end it will make you stronger and stronger...
maybe you cant see the benefit in time soon...but in Akhirat, you are benefited in many ways,
Rasulullah ditanya mengenai kelakuan yang paling banyak memasukkan seseorang ke dalam syurga. Jawab baginda: "Takwa kepada Allah dan keindahan akhlak." Ketika Baginda ditanya apakah yang paling banyak memasukkan orang ke dalam neraka? Baginda menjawab: "Kejahatan mulut dan kemaluan." Rasulullah SAW lagi bermaksud: "Sesiapa mengawal lidahnya (daripada memperkatakan kehormatan orang), maka Allah akan menutup kecelaannya (hal yang memalukan). Sesiapa yang menahan kemarahannya, Allah akan melindunginya daripada seksa-Nya. Dan sesiapa yang meminta kelonggarannya kepada Allah, maka Allah akan menerima permintaan kelonggarannya." Rasulullah bermaksud: "Tidak akan lurus iman seseorang hamba, sehingga lurus pula hatinya, dan tidak akan lurus hatinya sehingga lurus pula lidahnya. Dan seorang hamba tidak akan masuk syurga selagi tetangganya belum aman daripada kejahatannya." (Hadis riwayat Ibnu Abib-Duanya).i know its hard to keep your mouth shut in certain things...
and i know how hard it is to handle hurtful events in life...
insyAllah...we can benefit it in the end...
so remember my dears,
i know life is hard,i know you dont like certain things or events that happen in your life...dont talk too much on things that you know does not benefit you or others, especially if your talking about another human being that clearly didnt do anything to harm you or hurt you. If your really have to say something,its best you just meet up or text that person and say the things you want to say. Its better to have closure on something rather than linger on to it..because this can result to make you a bitter and self-centered person.
Rasulullah SAW telah bersabda yang bermaksud: "Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang paling aku kasihi di kalangan kamu dan orang yang paling dekat tempat duduknya denganku dihari kiamat ialah orang yang paling baik akhlaknya. Sesungguhnya orang yang paling aku benci dan paling jauh dariku pada hari kiamat ialah orang yang banyak bercakap perkara sia-sia, dan berlagak angkuh, sombong malah ia merasa bangga dengan kesombongannya." Para sahabat bertanya lagi, "Wahai Rasulullah, sesungguhnya kami telah mengetahui maksud perkataan orang-orang yang suka bercakap banyak yang sia-sia, dan yang berlagak angkuh dan sombong, tetapi apakah maksud orang yang bangga dengan kesombongannya? Jawab Rasulullah, "ialah orang yang takbur." (Hadis Riwayat At-Tarmizi)
but always remember..if your the victim..if you cant be an avid commenter...its okay..people will talk about you,wanting to know why and such..human nature is to be curious....it hurts i know but trust me,in the end it will make you stronger and stronger...
maybe you cant see the benefit in time soon...but in Akhirat, you are benefited in many ways,
Rasulullah ditanya mengenai kelakuan yang paling banyak memasukkan seseorang ke dalam syurga. Jawab baginda: "Takwa kepada Allah dan keindahan akhlak." Ketika Baginda ditanya apakah yang paling banyak memasukkan orang ke dalam neraka? Baginda menjawab: "Kejahatan mulut dan kemaluan." Rasulullah SAW lagi bermaksud: "Sesiapa mengawal lidahnya (daripada memperkatakan kehormatan orang), maka Allah akan menutup kecelaannya (hal yang memalukan). Sesiapa yang menahan kemarahannya, Allah akan melindunginya daripada seksa-Nya. Dan sesiapa yang meminta kelonggarannya kepada Allah, maka Allah akan menerima permintaan kelonggarannya." Rasulullah bermaksud: "Tidak akan lurus iman seseorang hamba, sehingga lurus pula hatinya, dan tidak akan lurus hatinya sehingga lurus pula lidahnya. Dan seorang hamba tidak akan masuk syurga selagi tetangganya belum aman daripada kejahatannya." (Hadis riwayat Ibnu Abib-Duanya).i know its hard to keep your mouth shut in certain things...
and i know how hard it is to handle hurtful events in life...
insyAllah...we can benefit it in the end...
-banyak diam tidak semestinya bodoh, banyak cakap tidak semestinya cerdik.... -
-what does not kill you,
will only make you stronger-
hadis taken from : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ibu/message/17475?var=1
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